Monthly Archives: January 2006

Ask for Support

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Ask for Support

So this is a hard one for me as I am Ms Radical Self Reliance, the original Lone Ranger. But there are times when we just have to admit that we can’t do it all by ourselves any longer. And the crazy thing is, we often have friends that are just itching to help if we would just give them half a chance.

A great way to start if you are also afflicted by the Lone Ranger Syndrome is to make a list of the people that could provide support for you in different ways. For example, I have friends and colleagues I can call when I am feeling low and need an energy boost. I have other family and friends I can count on when I just need nurturing and comforting. Then there are the BS detectors who I can rely on for clarification and even confrontation. When my ego feels I little bruised I know who to turn to for acknowledgment. And then there are the friends, colleagues and communities that provide me with spiritual inspiration.

All of those people form part of my support network, and I contribute to theirs. We have a willingness to help each other meet our needs. I feel comfortable sharing with them specific ways they can help me, and they do the same with me.

When the Going Gets Tough

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When the Going Gets Tough…

So your alarm didn’t go off, the kids fought all the way through breakfast, there was a traffic accident that caused you to get to work late, your clients were cranky, your answering service double booked you in the morning and you had a no-show in the afternoon, and then you got another decline from a client’s insurance company.

All in all it was one of THOSE days. Then, after work you had a family holiday gathering where one of your relatives really pushed your buttons. So what do you do? If possible, leave the situation, even if momentarily. Go outside and get some air. Take a walk and give your body a chance to burn off some of the adrenaline.

Breathe deeply. And find something to be grateful for.

When Feeling Stressed…. Talk To An Upbeat Friend

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When Feeling Stressed…. Talk To An Upbeat Friend

Sometimes simply talking things out with a person who will listen without judging you or colluding with you is very helpful. This is particularly true when you are feeling stressed. It can help put things in perspective. However, do make sure the person you choose is compassionate, a good listener, as well as positive in their outlook towards life.

You may not want to discuss your stressful situation with someone who is really attached to their way of seeing things as they will probably give you a lecture. And we’ve all had plenty of those! Nor do you want to choose someone who is feeling overwhelmed and stressed themselves. Then you have a case of the blind leading the blind. Instead, choose someone who really cares for you and whose company you enjoy.

Calling All Lone Rangers

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Calling All Lone Rangers….

So this is a hard one for me as I am Ms Radical Self Reliance, the original Lone Ranger. But there are times when we just have to admit that we can’t do it all by ourselves any longer. And the crazy thing is, we often have friends that are just itching to help if we would just give them half a chance.

A great way to start if you are also afflicted by the Lone Ranger Syndrome is to make a list of the people that could provide support for you in different ways. For example, I have friends and colleagues I can call when I am feeling low and need an energy boost. I have other family and friends I can count on when I just need nurturing and comforting. Then there are the BS detectors who I can rely on for clarification and even confrontation. When my ego feels I little bruised I know who to turn to for acknowledgment. And then there are the friends, colleagues and communities that provide me with spiritual inspiration.

All of those people form part of my support network, and I contribute to theirs. We have a willingness to help each other meet our needs. I feel comfortable sharing with them specific ways they can help me, and they do the same with me. So, who’s in your support network?